Until Further Notice

Hi everyone,

For strategic reasons, I will hold off on writing anymore posts on this blog until further notice. I'm working on a change which will be announced in due time. 

Any inconvenience is deeply regretted. All the best, and have a great weekend, everyone!

---Kingston.

Write Your Book Anyway

We all have that friend who says they want to write a book, right? 

And surely, that’s a good thing, but most don’t do it  for a few fears. I say write it anyway.

And here are a few reasons why it will make a difference for at least one, which is where it all starts.

You may be thinking: There are so many books out there, why write mine?

Okay, while that’s not the mindset to adopt, let’s take a closer look: Although there are so many book out there, there are also so many outdated books out there, there are dead books out there (books that are not worth reading because they add nothing to anyone’s life) books that are hard to read, books that lived out their usefulness, and books that are not on the topic you will be writing about, or from the perspective you will take it. 

This takes out a lot of the mental barrier of thinking there’s too much out there already. Write your book.

Won't sell? You don’t know that. Until you offer your book you will never know, and that can torment you. I recently shared with a friend that the pain of failure is far greater than the regret of not trying. And even if you fail, you will have failed forward, and means you will have moved the chains, made some progress.

Also, the experience of writing a book is also a benefit in and of itself because the exercise will leave you a better writer than before, and surely you will write a better book on your next try, if the first one’s not that great. Nothing is lost in the attempt.

To help you see how the sale could happen, here’s a possible situation that makes people buy books: Let's say, for example, John is struggling with something you know a lot about---say, how to work on an oil rig, how to buy a home, or how to create a successful meetup group, and others like that. 

And he is strapped for time, doesn't want to read a big book, he has very little money or doesn't want to spend a lot to get the knowledge, and he finds himself online searching for a book on the topic you are writing about. If your book is well packaged, an easy read, and is affordable, there's a good chance he will buy it. 

Yet until you offer the book, the chance of this happening is not even there. Create the chance. Write your book, at least for John.

A Key Habit To Help You Write A Book

I know, I know, a lot of people want to write a book, right? And surely it’s a good desire. 

Why I think so? Every living human has a story to tell, because to live is to live out your story. And if every story is unique, and stories have lessons, then everyone has something to say, something to teach, something to give. 

And to give, you need a medium to do it. If you choose to use a book to share what you know, here are a few baby steps.

The writing process comes out of life, out of living, and you know living happens every day and everywhere. And that’s why your content can be found anywhere. 

But how do you capture your content? One of the easiest ways to do so is to keep a notepad with you. A notepad should not be far off wherever you are---the ideas for your book can hit you at any time, and some of the best hit when you least expect them. Some of the finest lines could come to you when you are eating, walking about, in a conversation with someone, and so on. You get it.

And since a short pencil is better than a long memory, capture it before it flies off. There's often too much going on in our lives to commit things to our memory, but a pencil keeps it noted. 

Why wait till you sit down to think up your ideas? Heard of the writers block, right? Yeah, often it hits the very moment you sit to punch the keys.

And this note-taking habit is shown in one of my favorite movies,  Finding Forrester. Ever seen it? Derek Luke, who plays the Jamal, the young man who befriends William Forrester, Sean Connery's character in the movie, always carried a back pack with him. 

In his backpack, he had a little notebook  which he used to write down some of his favorite lines. In the movie, he ends up losing his backpack while he and his friends, out of curiosity, visit William Forrester’s apartment. To them the old man was mysterious and they wanted to find out who he was. 

They get spooked and ran off, and Jamal leaves his bag behind. William ends up looking through his backpack and notices the young man’s writing habit and some of the lines he had penned. These little pieces of sentences are what the renowned author sees and likes, even comments on them in his notations in Jamal's book. This ultimately became the tissue/link to their friendship.

 Great pieces equals a great book, and these pieces could come to you at the beach, the grocery store, in a conversation. So always have a pen at the ready or your own writing software.

Why Deciding Can Be Hard

I saw the headline: 1,142 Decisions For Christ — Hill Country Bible Church sign.

 

Decisions? Decided? To decide?

Break down the word and you see why it can be hard. To decide is to kill.

Surely ‘cide’ means to kill, right? As we see in homicide, pesticide, and germicide. To decide, then, means to kill a choice in favor of another. 

Surely few people ran happily to kill or take something or someone out. This is where the heart tugs leave many of us undecided, indecisive. It can be uneasy. 

Yet, we must decide, for we can’t have it all, and progress depends on deciding, choosing. So kill the less desirable alternative for the better one.

An Easier Way To Gain People Skills

We all need skills. Nothing worthwhile is possible without them.

And one of the best is people skills. Technology cannot touch that.

Without much labor on this point, people skills are important. The whole thing starts and ends with people, you know. So gaining a good handle on how to deal with people is key to a whole lot.

How, then, can you start working on yours, if you feel unsure when interacting with people? How can you get comfortable having meaningful conversations with others?

A simple conversation where you set out to learn is all it takes. Interview others as a way of learning from them, and get the by-product that comes with it: experience and a relationship.

Here’s an easy way to get started.

Take out your smartphone, and look for the voice recorder that came with it (it should be one of the apps that came pre-installed). Plug in headphones that have in-line microphones and test it out. Say some words into it. Play back the audio to yourself. Good? Works?

The voice recorder on my LG phone. This works.

Okay, now find someone you know and interview him. Someone you are close to and are comfortable around. You can place the phone on a table that can take both voices and begin, if you don’t have headphones.

Ask simple questions. Ask questions around something you are both knowledgeable about. For example, if you both like soccer, start with that. Like these:

1. What do you think makes soccer unique from other sports?
2. What got you interested in the game? Is there a particular personal story behind it?
3. Is there a particular aspect of the game that you really like — tackling, scoring, dribbling, passing, teamwork, etc? Least favorite?

Just those. Start there, and leave enough time for a response from whoever you are interviewing.

Now playback the interview. How does it sound? What can you improve?

This is critical because you can only improve on something you have done, not something in your head. And the most important thing is to start.

With your lessons from this one, interview another person — your mom, dad, teacher, or brother. Review that one, too, and learn from it.

This series of interviews should give you a good degree of comfort to start with. Take it a step further and interview someone you are not very close to — like a co-worker or a neighbor. Do this enough times, like say 10 of them.

Do that, and now you have something under your belt, some experience. Don’t worry about mistakes, action is what matters, at this point. Many ideas have failed for lack of action and fear of mistakes.

Finally, to really use this skill to advance your career, find someone who is doing something you’d like to do — a professional, most probably, and interview them on their personal story in that industry, or what they’d like to share with a newbie in the industry. Just simply humble yourself and learn from them through the interview.

(If you’d like to be a teacher, find a good teacher in your town/city and interview him/her; if you’d like to be a chef, stop by a good restaurant and schedule a 15 minute interview with their top chef and learn; if you’d like to be a football coach, pick the brains of the local high school football coach in 15 minutes)

Or, like David Rogier, if you become really good at it, you can use it to land a job/internship. David wanted to land an internship at IDEO (a reputable product design consultancy company), so he used his interviewing skills to interview 23 people at an airport about baggage claims, created a book on all the insights he gained from the interviews and how he would improve the process. He found a way to share his findings with the company. He got the internship.

Or, use it to gain more skills by doing a local interview project around something you are passionate about. Like I did over 21 days with small business owners here in Austin, Texas. Seeing the initiative behind my project and the fact that I was documenting my journey online, one of the owners offered me a job application while I interviewed him, and another brought up the possibility of working on a project together.

So to keep it simple, you can organize a 14-day interview project around culinary skills, for example, and interview 10 chefs in local restaurants, and work on your writing skills by blogging your daily lessons on a simple blog.

You will come away with not only people skills, but you will work on your writing skills, your pitching skills (an ability to present your project’s idea to a professional to set interview appointments), create a relationship with whoever you interview, and come away with a story to tell.

But the most important thing is to start. Interview the first person.

Virtuosity

A) Identify one thing you love that is really hard for you.
 B) Do it
 C) Repeat B a lot.

Then you move from incompetent to competent. From competent to mastery. From mastery to virtuosity. [Thanks to my friend, Mark Ford, for breaking it for me into these four categories. It’s very true.] — James Altucher.

Virtuosity.

I saw it and thought about it for a bit. Why is it so termed, this degree of excellence? Okay, surely the root word is ‘virtue.’ What, then, is ‘virtue’?

Good moral standards, right? And then you think further, and realise that virtue is ‘vertical’s’ cousin. ‘Vertical’ is what we know as the upright, what leads upward, heavenward.

Is it a stretch, then, to say the highest form of excellence, the ‘virtuoso’ kind, is the performance that gives God glory? That shows forth God’s goodness as the giver of the gifts, the talents, the life, the strength, the wisdom, and all?

Surely, there’s a reason why the winner of the trophy lifts it upward at the end— not necessarily to thank the fans but to show the reward of the work to his Maker above.

Virtuosity.

Grammar Is Not Unimportant

Okay, this is a quick response to a recent feeling about grammar.

Grammar is understanding's aid, it helps people think clearly about things, and lends respect to the reader. There's a reason why order is needed with all things useful. Grammar is order.

Writing is an exchange, an investment. A man takes his time, which he could have used somewhere else to do something else, but chooses to spend it--invest it---in reading your work. Respect that. Think like this: Is this piece of writing worth his time? After he is done reading will he be better off as a person? Make your piece worthwhile.

Grammar helps the mind think, and a person's mind is his privacy, a very delicate part of him. So feeding this part of him with a rushed jumble--forgetting grammar---hurts the mind---and is harsh to it. Few people spend time hurting. So write, and write well.

Yet, in saying all this, there are still audiences for whom grammar may not be necessary, because it may not lead to understanding, and understanding should be the chief reason for writing. But then again, for most literate audiences grammar is crucial to helping the mind properly process what the writing is about.

Ever heard this saying by B.J Chute: "Grammar is to a writer what anatomy is to a sculptor and the scales to a musician, you may loathe it, it may bore you, but nothing will replace it, and once mastered, it will support you like a rock."

Alright, off to your slate. Write.

Write It Down

Write it down. You got something you want to do? Write it down. What is the topic? It doesn't have to be perfect. Just write it down. Do you want to start a small group ? Write down everything that comes to your mind about it. You can delete the bad stuff later. But when your mind's hot, ideas flow and come to you. Catch them all. Strike the hammer while the iron is hot, the old saying goes.

Why? Because there will come a time when your motivation wanes, and then you'll not feel as fired up, and ideas don't come to you as readily. This is not the time to try remembering what came to you when you were feeling good. A short pencil is better than a long memory, and strike the hammer while the iron is hot.

I Use A Pencil: The Experimenter's tool

Yeah, a pencil gives me freedom to experiment. A pencil is great for what's at it's butt---the eraser. We are not at the commitment stage yet, so let's feel free to try things out---check if a sentence is good or not, and use the eraser if not. A pen puts an indelible mark on the work, and makes changes messy---not time for that yet. On the bus, at the gas station, on the flight, I can quickly pull out a pencil and be off to writing.

Let's write.